stress grief

well stress & grief Defiantly have an effect on RA
on Sunday my beautiful boy (cat) Yoshi had to be put down
he was 15 years old and had a stroke on Saturday I tried to see if he'd get better but he got Worse falling over & crying in my arms so a frantic trip to the vet on Sunday morning
the vet agreed he would not recover and he was euthanized peacefully while I cuddled him
he was my friend and Always knew when I was ill he slept in my bed under my arm for everyday of those 15 yrs.
Sunday I was trying to be strong for him , Monday I just felt numb, Tuesday Cried when I thought I saw him on the bed. But now today I have a RA Flare Hands Stiff Shoulder sore etc so expecting more to follow
why dose this stupid disease kick us when we least need it

Omg I am so so very sorry for your loss I know your pain in both ways. All the monster needs is a little tiny bit of stress to flare yet you have just had a serious emotional event. Try to stay warm if you can since I don't know where you live. But here in Cali I have had it go from rainy wet and cold to windy dry and cold so my hands feel like they have been run over and over and over. Etc etc. try and nurse yourself gently, ( don't be like $herlock and say pull your self up are you a mouse or a woman) don't do this to yourself. You have to heal emotionally before your body will start to get along with you. I am so sorry I could tell you of all the times in my life that dogs and cats who were long time life time companions and had to be sent home as a mercy. I know what your feeling. It is just my personal belief that you saw him because your spirits are connected he knows your hurting just the way he did when he was healthy. The sadness will get easier in time but you will always carry a little tears but soon it will be a joyful memory and smiles not tears. But I had a serious emotional shock last month my fifteen year old son just ran away ( still won't come home maybe in a gang :-( Jeesh) but within days of it I just couldn't move I was in so much pain. Even my sternum swelled up and felt like I was having a heart attack. That was totally new for me. But I pulled the " I'm ok keep pushing keep pushing until I was in bed for 10 days just hurting. I hope you find healing and joy soon. Your in my thoughts.

((( hugs)))

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So sorry for your loss of poor Yoshi Bad.
It's so hard to watch our beloved pet friends suffer and hard to be the one who decides to end their lives. Couple that with how much they contributed to our well being and finding them gone....no wonder you are in a flare.
Were you able to bury him at home?
We had to have the vet come to our home to put down our 14 year old loving Pit Bull afew years ago. We buried her in the yard and planted an apple tree over top of her. We hung her collar over a branch. My plan is to one day make an apple pie but the birds always eat all the baby apples every year.
You'll be in my prayers for peace & healing

Bad day
I hope it is getting easier. I had an infusion of remicade today so just got under a blanket and plopped in front of tv. This makes my husband go nuts because I do this more than anything else. " it's no way to live " he says with frustration and enough venom to sting. I wish, has anyone heard of these glasses they use to teach young people what it's like to be drunk, I wish they had a simulator so that people without RA could feel what it's like just long enough to understand. We are anything but "babies" in the way we deal with symptoms.
Still haven't seen my son. But I get word he is ok yet making very bad choices. Worse than ever. Is it wrong to throw your hands up and say I have done everything I can think of it up to God now. Which is what I have done but feel guilty.
15 years ago our 12 year old red Doberman out of the blue started having a lot of trouble breathing. I tried to get him to lie down but he kept pacing around. Finally he came to me. And this was such an intimate experience he looked right in my eye. I swear , no one will ever convince me other wise, he wanted help, specifically help me go home. I told my mother who was going to drive 50 miles to the nearest 24 vet. I don't care what it costs here is my check book ( no money in bank didn't care) if he can be saved do it!
Because I was raised catholic I lit a candle for Him and it was at 10p that the flame grew bigger and brighter. I watched it and thought oh dear he just went didn't he? When my mother came home I could see it on her face I said you don't have to tell me I know and he went home at 10p she looked shocked how I knew and I told her we cried a lot but I just know he was suffering and he asked me to help him. He had congestive heart failure there was nothing that could be done. That was a long time ago but I still feel sad every so often. But I know he will be there when I get there. Tail wagging. But time does help. Thank you for your words of encouragement on sons.