in and out of love

Sometimes i feel like i love my fiance and sometimes i cant stand him. Is this normal? He isnt mean or anything its just sometimes it feels like he takes me for granite. Hes really sweet though. I just wish it could be the way it use to be when we first started dating and he was so interested in me   I tried to overdose the other day because of it. what should i do to spark the fire again cuz im tore up about it? i feel useless.

wolflover,

First, I would like to say I'm sorry that you are struggling some with your feelings for your fiancee. How long have you two been with each other, and what are your ages, if you don't mind me asking? Do you have a date for your wedding? Do you think that your possibly wanting to be a bride but it might be a bride to the wrong person. You shouldn't be having those feelings, it isn't normal in my opinion.

I am 46, married 23 years and have 7-kids, 3-grand kids. This is my 2nd marriage, my first marriage lasted 3-years and I was having feelings like you, but my mom wouldn't let me back out of the wedding as everything was already completely done. Announcments, etc. She said I was just getting cold feet but everything would be fine after i got married. Well, it didn't. I could tell you tons more but i don't want to bore you about it. But my 2nd marriage was different. We are Best Frends, and when things get difficult the 1-thing that keeps us together is our friendship and laughter.

Do you laugh together? When he does dumb or silly things, do U laugh about it, or does it make you irritated or embarrassed for him? The reason I ask is... In my first marriage, If i did something silly or acted in a dorky way, he would criticize me and tell me to act my age. He thought everything I did was stupid. My 2nd husband, if I do something silly or act like a dork, he completely laughs. He loves my personality...These are just a couple things to share with you.

I hope you can figure out what your true feelings are and don't step into a marriage if your having problems now. Good luck to you.

If you ever want to chat more my email address is listed in the members section.
Your Healingwell Friend,
Serenitee

no, that wasnt the first time and i didnt receive medical attention. I am bipolar, add, and nad. I had a psychiatrist and she dismissed me and i cant go back. I guess she got mad at me. Now i can't find one but im gona tell my counselor about the overdose and see if she can find me a psychitrist. I really hope she doesnt put me in a mental hospital because i dont want to lose my job. when i was taking seroquel i was fine, but rite now im not on anything. Rite now im having a mixed episode. I dont have internet access at my house. I am at work rite now on break. My fiance is very sweet and understanding. I think its the fact that i dont understand him sometimes. see he has a low sex drive and i am hypersexual. Thats the only problem. Its frustrating. We goof off all the time and have fun. At the moment though, i feel useless I love him so much. I wished hed go to the doctor but he just keeps putting it off and thats what the overdose was about.

I think that when you get yourself back on an even state you can look at your relationship and see if it is really working for you. Like Serenitee, I have been married twice and the first time I think I just wanted to be married so bad. My first marriage only lasted 2 years and as it was going downhill I was hospitalized and diagnosed BP. I think my ex filed the same day. I guess I just want to say I am concerned about your mental health right now and hope you can get into a psychiatrist so that you can really look at the relationship and make sure it will withstand anything. My second husband and I will celebrate our 14 anniversary this summer. It has not always been easy with my BP, but having someone who is your best friend and who is committed to your relationship is critical in my book. Just know you are cared about!!