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Posted 5/13/2010 2:29 PM (GMT -5)
I was diagnosed with nerve damage at Christmas this past year.  This happened through a laproscopic surgery I had to remove my gall bladder over 6 years ago.  Since that surgery I have had severe pain in my abdomen and all kinds of MRIs, CAT scans, etc.  I was also given morphine, demoral, etc but that did not help with the pain.  I was given 3 steroid and freezing injections over the last few months but now have maxed out.  I am now undergoing physiotherapy and ultrasound to help break down scar tissue and desensitive the pain.  The treatment has made my pain increase ten fold.  On top of the daily pain, I also have a coworker who made a complaint against me at work.  I help this person find her job and ever since she started she has seemed very unhappy and she quit talking to me.  I found out through her complaint that she is really upset for helping her find this job which she hates and she feels like it is my fault that she is in a job she hates.  The ironic thing is I only mentioned this job because she said she hated the job she was in before.  I try and talk to people I know like family and they seem to just not want to hear it any more.  I guess people do have a threshold of what they will put up with.  Right now I would like to just disappear and start over.  My nerve damage will never disappear but I just want a fresh start.  Is there any hope that this will get better?
Posted 5/13/2010 3:04 PM (GMT -5)
Welcome . I am sorry your in pain though . I can understand some what I suffered with stomach pain for 3 months with my gb but I had it removed about 7 weeks ago and no more stomach pain. I hope you can find treatment to help your pain lessen.
Posted 5/13/2010 3:38 PM (GMT -5)
Welcome to the family.  I'm sorry you're in such pain.  I hope you can find something to help you feel better.  I just recently got put on a medication that helps with the pain.  I wish you good luck and a low pain day.

 

hugs

Loretta

Posted 5/13/2010 4:56 PM (GMT -5)
Hello Tree and Welcom to HW.

I am sorry that your are experiencing such stress and pain right now and very sorry about the complaint at work. I'm sure that must cause additional stress that you don't need right now.

If I understood your post correctly, this complaint is based on the fact that you helped someone get a job that they are dissatisfied with. If so, the complaint sounds like something the management is surely able to see through....especially if the person was unhappy in the last position as well. Management is rarely unaware of such behavior and should see this for what it is. I don't, however, understand exactly what that is because I don't see how you can file a complaint on someone for helping you find a job. None the less, if you have broken no laws and have broken no policies, this should go away soon.

I wish you all the best!
Posted 5/13/2010 5:58 PM (GMT -5)
tree234

I want to Welcome you to Healing Well Chronic Pain Forum. You have found a place where people do understand what it is like to have constant chronic pain! People that can relate to the things you say and talk about, you can come here and vent your frustrations, and talk about your hopes and your fears of living with chronic pain!, Above all, you don't have to disappear, because as much as you would like to start over again, ( I think we all would like to do that) but we can't! And we can't disappear either! But here on this forum you have no need to feel that way! Because You are not alone when you are here on this forum, we all care and help and support each other here. You know Tree234 I do not think it is that people have a threshold, so much,as they just can not relate to your problem. Unless you suffer from pain/chronic pain it is difficult for them to really understand and relate to your situation That is what makes this place and the people here so special! They can and do, understand and can relate to you and your situation!
I wish you only the best, again Wecome to our family!

White Beard
Posted 5/13/2010 6:39 PM (GMT -5)
Tree,
sure wish I had that "magic" pill that could help you...have you tried using a heating pad, folded up, might help...
Have you had any upper endo scopes to make sure it's not stomach pain...just an idea...
Sure hope you get a low pain day soon...
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hugz
Posted 5/13/2010 9:18 PM (GMT -5)
Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. I am usually not so down but I have been having physio therapy with ultrasound for the last 5 days as they think that this may 'desensitize' the nerve from being so angry all the time. The therapist and doctor isn't sure it will work but I can tell you that having a area which is already painful be rubbed and prodded everyday has not been easy and I think it just got me down. I needed to hear some kind words. I
only have one more session and then a break until next week. I found out today that my ribs are displaced because of how I am always hunched over trying to protect my abdomen. I didn't even realize I was doing this! Now they have to try to stretch out my muscles to put my ribs back. They also found that the nerve is affected through my intercoastal section and explains why my back is sore. I would have liked to get some good news like the pain will go away for a while now! The doctor said I will have this the rest of my life and we now have to manage it. I guess I at least know what is wrong now. As for the co-worker, normally I wouldn't be so sensitive but she just hit me with this at a low time. I was also very shocked that someone could be so angry when all I did was point out that there was a job available. Anywhooo, I do know it could be much worse but I can also imagining it could be much better and that I wish for all of you that it will be much better (also for me : ) ).
Posted 5/13/2010 9:32 PM (GMT -5)
Hi Tree,

 

Welcome to Healing Well and to the chronic pain forum. I am very glad that you found us but terribly sorry to hear of your situation. I think you can safely say now, that you are not alone in having to deal with this mess. We all have our own story  to tell as to why we are here but one thing we do have in common is pain and what it can do to a person, to their family and to their life. What you are dealing with and going through in an effort to reduce your pain does not sound very good from my birdseye view. But, hey, if it ends up giving you some relief, then it will be worth it. The bottom line is we all want relief and will pretty much do just about anything to get relief.

 

If you see the down days are happening more than the up days you may be dealing with some depression. Depression and chronic pain go hand in hand. Many of us on the forum are on medication for depression and sometimes with the right medication it can sometimes even help with the pain. So, if you feel this may be something that is happening to you, please talk to your PCP about it. It has sure happened to many of us here.

 

As for the person that is upset over the job, well I just would forget about the whole thing.  It really sounds like no matter where or what this person does in their job they are never going to like it. It is not your fault by any means, you didn't hold a gun to their head and say hey you have to take this job. Really this person sounds awfully immature and petty. You know as hard as jobs are to get these days that person should be glad they even have a job. So, please do not let this get to you any more, jeesh just not worth it, you have bigger fish to fry. lol.

 

Please keep posting and let us know how you are coming along and take care.

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