I'm happily and healthily pregnant with number two right now (only 7 weeks left to go!!). This is my second healthy and uneventful pregnancy in two years. The best thing is to go in already in remission -- so stop procrastinating on those meds.
I was/am in remission with both pregnancies and have remained the remission with just Pentasa. Stronger meds (remicade, humira, pred) are also safe. Several moms here have used them and there's a lot of research if you look and talk to your GI. The rule is healthy mom = healthy baby. It's really true. If you're sick and run down how can your body grow and nurture a baby? The risk of being sick is worse and scarier than most meds. Start out healthy and you're ahead of the game. They also say that 1/3 of women get better, 1/3 stay the same, and 1/3 get worse while pregnant. I think staying on meds helps this third category for sure. Both of my pregnancies have been heavenly. I had/have tons of energy. With my daughter I never had any morning sickness either. This boy caused me a little of that, which made me nervous, but it disappeared and it's been smooth sailing since. My daughter was born perfect and is way ahead of all of her milestones, so I have no worries about
being on meds. I breast fed her for 15 months too, until I was getting too pregnant with this guy to keep it up. This boy is a little different. I swear, he's like being on pred. I have the pred/pregsomnia and crazies a bit. That may be part of what's keeping me so healthy though.
Anyway, I understand your worries. I had them too. Just wanted to give you a positive reassuring story. I loved being pregnant so much the first time, I couldn't wait to try for number two. I think I will miss it again when this one is over (trying to talk hubby into 4!). Pregnancy and, more so, children are the best gift. Do your homework, but once you start the journey, relax and enjoy it, or at least appreciate the amazing thing even our sick bodies can do.