NCOT - I am SOOO sorry that this topic was a trigger for you and probably others as well. I hold myself as a very sympathetic, understanding person, but sometimes I just don't understand it all. I should have realized that this type of topic was a very sensitive issue and on a board where emotions run high, it makes it even worse. I hope you are feeling better today. Thank you for supporting me and my husband and seeing how much I care for him.
Wolfie - In what ways was your wife supportive? There is such a fine line between support and smothering that I find myself doing a crazy dance between the two to find the right line. When you were at your low, what did she do to help lift you up without picking you up. When you were at your defiance, what did she to do to help steer you back on track without driving you? Congratulations on your remission!
To everyone else - thank you for taking the time to read and post...... I'm sure you've all been in his place at one time or another and just knowing that you all are trying to help me help him through it, it means a lot.
Dinky - I hope I didn't offend you by saying he's not at the evaluation point yet. Obviously, being in the profession that you're in, you've seen it all and probably know more than I will ever know the seriousness and fragile nature of the human psyche. Does he need help, yes. But how to you force a grown man into therapy? If I threaten him, he will only close up and suffer even more. Like NCOT, those who talk about it, often don't act on it. It's the quiet ones who are in the most trouble (at least from my experience).