VERY DEPRESSED AND ANXIOUS I AM SORRY ABOUT THE LENGTH BUT I AM IN DIRE NEED OF HELP

If you want to read this her is a list of grievences for why she want to leave me. I find them to be a joke. am I wrong?

1. Her computer for school had a problem because she spilled water on it. I told her if it could not be repaired we would buy her a new one. I left work early to pick up her computer which worked perfectly. She is now mad because she said if it were my computer I would have bought a new one the second it had a problem. Rewind one month from then. The computer I use for work and for home would not charge anymore because the piece broke off. I had to send it away for what they said would be a month. In the meantime at work I used a desktop from 1995. I could not open any Microsoft attachments or send them because it was so outdated. This was a big problem at work. Granted they returned the computer to me in two weeks but I DID NOT BUY A NEW COMPUTER.
2. She is mad that I never cook for her. Keep in mind she is amazing cook who brags about how much she loves to do it and how it relaxes her. She also has cooked me about three meals in the past two months, but I am not complaining. I take what I get and she had a brief and finals. She is mad at me that I never cook dinner. I am a terrible cook who could only cook dried out chicken, pasta, or turkey burgers. I actually offered to cook for her on two occasions. Once I asked her if she wanted me to cook her a turkey burger and she said she did not want one she just wanted to go out because she was sick of them. The next time I said I would cook for her I asked “what do you want chicken or pasta” she laughed at the time and order Chinese. Now she looks back and is mad at my “indecision” on what to make. Keep in mind though she cooks I pay for a maid to come every week so she or I never have to clean, we each do our own laundry. I wash the dishes, sometimes she helps. I walk and take care of the dog 99.9 percent of the time. I am always and still very thankful for any meal she cooks for me. It is not like she is slaving away here.
3. She is mad because she moved into my condo andshe does not have any input into the décor or rooms in the condo. This condo was decorated by a friend. It is very bachelory, but I mean leather couches nothing kinky or anything. She even admit she loves the condo. Everyone who comes over loves the condo. She was mad that I did not “let her” have any input on the place. She wanted a new couch, a new bed, redo the bathroom and more. I really do not like to bring money into this but I was gifted the down payment to this place, which I am beyond grateful for. I work for a living. She used to work and I told her she could quit her job and go to law school full time and I would take care of everything. I warned her that this would be a strain on us but I am willing to do this. Her thirtieth birthday is coming up. She wants, beside the apartment stuff, and open bar party in the major metropolitian city we live in, a trip out of the country which will probably cost 4 or 5 grand, then in June she wants a better car, apiece of cardio exercise equipment and a new computer when hers works fine. I AM ALSO PAYING FOR LAW SCHOOL EXCLUSIVELY AND DO NOT MAKE THAT MUCH. Oh, by the way, we also are still paying off our trip to Paris and Nice that I took her on in the summer. Now I was raised very spoiled and I make a nice wage but nothing crazy by any means. Though I was spoiled rotten as a child I am so thank ful for everything I got. A roof over my head, a job, food on the table, a dog I love like a child, a car A job. I am so fortunate for what I have and this is how I look at it. Grant it, some of our friends went in to business and their families give them ENOURMOUS salaries ect. BUT PLEASE WHAT AMD I DOING WRONG HERE? How can I possibly live up to all of these things she wants? And she also said to our couples therapist that she was not materialistic!
4. She says that I may incapable of raising kids with her because of my depressive states. I see how others suffer and realize and thank god I have it so good. Everyone who has seen me with children say that I would make the greatest father one day. SHE even said that is one of the reasons she married me. When she saw how unbelievable I was with my nieces she said she knew I would be a perfect dad. Now this is a depression issue and I really do think I can over come this without a problem, honestly. But for better for worse, in sickness and in health. Hello. She also was concerned since I cannot cook and since we probably would have two working parents, she fears for the children because I can not cook and I cannot feed them. I KNOW how to use a microwave. I can learn how to use a stove. I can also order in. This is crazy.
5. She wanted a piece of exercise equipment for our anniversary because she returned the barclet I got her, which is fine she just did not like it. One day during finals she told me to look at al the exercise equipment and ask about it. She wanted a treadmill. She also has a bad knee. (keep in mind I pay for her gym membership which she never uses and is two blocks away). I told her she should get an elliptical machine because they are much better on your joints. I also mentioned that I could use it too because that is what I run on. She called me selfish. So I went ot look at all this equipment. WHO WOULD MAKE APURCHASE OF SUCH EQUIPMENT WITHOUT TRYING IT OUT. I looked at treadmills, bikes, ellipticals, and stairmasters but I really need her to be there to try them out. I knew this…the people in the store tole me this. I understand she was in finals but COME ON. I called her and I said I checked things out gave her some input and said when you are done with finals you should come and try it out. She said “fine” in a pissy way and I did not get it. It turns out she expected me to come home that day with ANY piece of equipment. She would have been fine she said even with an elliptical. She is Now mad at me for not bring home a piece of quipment she has never seen that day. This is insane

UPDATE:Hello all- thank for the encouragement and the help. You would not believe this but things are going great with my marriage. I have become much more assertive and have decided to seperate my family from my wife. I could not take it anymore. Things have been going so well we actually stopped seeing the couples therapist who hated me. We had a long talk about her demands and most of them were serious miscomunications or I was right. Grant it she is gone a lot because of law school but things in all areas have picked up. My depression went away for a while and i felt a pssion for life i had not had in so long. a few months ago i started to get depressed again because life is not as easy as i thought it could be when i was not depressed. I was taking wellbutrin and clonazapan and adderal for my ADHD, anxiety and depression. My doctor does not know if iam depressed or bi p[olar so i am slowly going on lamictal and will eventually ween off the wellbutrin because it is not doing anything. anyway i am depressed and very anxious but my problems with my wife, at least for now, are virtually non existent. I do think what she put me through was very unfair and i am really not going to forget it if things turn for the worse. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR LOVE, SUPPORT, AND WORDS. YOU ALL ARE TRUE SAINTS AND I ALL HOPE THAT YOU GET EVERYTHING YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT. To answer the last question she is doing amazing in school. However she works a ton of hours at it. My problems have not disappeared by a long shot, but right now my marriage is not one of them.

Thank you so much for the thoughts and support. They mean the world to me