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Posted 11/21/2014 11:27 AM (GMT -5)
I want to give up so badly. Some days I feel I'd rather die than continue feeling physical and emotional pain.

I've been out of work since 7/24 and will hopefully be back to work sometime next month.


I've gotten worse since I haven't been paid by short term disability since September since I assume Metlife doesn't understand how disabling fibromyalgia is. My doctor has been faxing them notes on how he diagnosed me and his plan on how to get me better to go to work. He has told them that he is not releasing me back to work until we control my fibro and depression. Insurance is making things difficult for me. They terminated my claim so now I have to appeal it because I AM SICK! I cannot function at work or at home.

Sorry I really had to vent about insurance. I'm out of woek for a legit reason and NOT a vacation.
Posted 11/21/2014 11:57 AM (GMT -5)
You can't give up. The insurance companies owe you money. Don't give up on that and take notes with dates on everything that pertains to work...

With the fibromyalgia you need to not stress over the situation. I know it is hard, but you can't let it get to you. Stress makes fibromyalgia and depression worse. Try learning some relaxation techniques. Deep breathing exercises, meditation. Mindfulness. It all helps. We do need medications and therapy, but there are many things we can do to help ourselves. Try to keep a good attitude about life too. You have to think positive as hard as it can be to do so...

Hang in there, keep posting... It helps to vent. I have dealt with some insurance companies and they will try to get you to give up. Just don't do that... You can do this...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 11/21/2014 12:06 PM (GMT -5)

getting by said...
You can't give up. The insurance companies owe you money. Don't give up on that and take notes with dates on everything that pertains to work...

With the fibromyalgia you need to not stress over the situation. I know it is hard, but you can't let it get to you. Stress makes fibromyalgia and depression worse. Try learning some relaxation techniques. Deep breathing exercises, meditation. Mindfulness. It all helps. We do need medications and therapy, but there are many things we can do to help ourselves. Try to keep a good attitude about life too. You have to think positive as hard as it can be to do so...

Hang in there, keep posting... It helps to vent. I have dealt with some insurance companies and they will try to get you to give up. Just don't do that... You can do this...

Hugs, Karen...


Thank you Karen

I have my ups and downs and today I'm a little of both. I have to try and be patient and wait for my medication to work, but some days I feel like I'm drowning.
Posted 11/21/2014 3:03 PM (GMT -5)
You CAN do this & you WILL! We will support you every step of the way.

My best friend has Fibro & let me tell you, once her depression got managed (she uses anti depressants, therapy & Baclofen), her Fibro almost has been put in remission! She was using a cane 3 summers ago & now she does yoga!

All I heard for a solid year & a half was "Fibro & flare" from her. It was so hard to hear this & not be able to do anything. She started seeing a psychiatrist and he's actually the one treating her Fibro!

There IS hope, I promise! Even though I don't have it, I know it's debilitating physically & emotionally.

Karen (Gettingby) has Fibro & chronic fatigue & she's been able to get it stabilized, my friend has- so can you. It's hard to see that right now but I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel.

There is a website & face book page my friend found comfort in. It's called butyoudontlooksick.com

Wishing you much peace & healing-
Lisa
Posted 11/21/2014 3:07 PM (GMT -5)

lesweet1971 said...
You CAN do this & you WILL! We will support you every step of the way.

My best friend has Fibro & let me tell you, once her depression got managed (she uses anti depressants, therapy & Baclofen), her Fibro almost has been put in remission! She was using a cane 3 summers ago & now she does yoga!

All I heard for a solid year & a half was "Fibro & flare" from her. It was so hard to hear this & not be able to do anything. She started seeing a psychiatrist and he's actually the one treating her Fibro!

There IS hope, I promise! Even though I don't have it, I know it's debilitating physically & emotionally.

Karen (Gettingby) has Fibro & chronic fatigue & she's been able to get it stabilized, my friend has- so can you. It's hard to see that right now but I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel.

There is a website & face book page my friend found comfort in. It's called butyoudontlooksick.com

Wishing you much peace & healing-
Lisa


I'm so happy for your friend! I'm trying to be more of a positive person, but I tend to fear failure and getting my hopes up. It is comforting knowing I'm not the only one feeling this way. Thank you for sharing your friend's story and also understanding :)
Posted 11/22/2014 2:19 AM (GMT -5)
never say die. sending healing thoughts your way.
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