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Posted 9/30/2013 11:01 AM (GMT -5)
Hi,
Today is my 20th birthday and it's afternoon (i live in Europe) and i did nothing and im not going to do anything. Im supposed to be happy and celebrate today but i am very very sad. My friends and family from my home country are sending me wishes and asking about my plans and i just hide my pain and i say that it's just an ordinary day and i have no plans.Im unhappy and i hide it from everybody. I live with my brother by the way and i have no contact with my fellow students. I hate this day. I just feel like the years are passing. I hope this day is going to pass too.
Posted 9/30/2013 11:06 AM (GMT -5)
So ask your brother to make some celebration for you! Make one for yourself. Make a cake. Make or go out for a special dinner.

Sometimes, you have to ask for what you want, or need,
Posted 9/30/2013 11:09 AM (GMT -5)
I bought for me a cake and a wine and i tried not to cry today but i couldn't handle it,i burst in to tears. My brother is not fun. He didn't even say happy birthday.
Posted 9/30/2013 11:27 AM (GMT -5)
Celebrate with yourself. Knowing that you are with your best friend. Sometimes we have to do that. Other people aren't always around when we need them. So we are our own company. You are with a good person, and somebody you can trust. Yourself.

I am wishing you a happy birthday. Try to do something enjoyable, even if it is just sitting with a good book.

I hope that you feel better soon hon...

Hugs, Karen....
Posted 9/30/2013 11:32 AM (GMT -5)
Of course,always by myself. I will try to my best. Thank you..Wishing you a good day!
Posted 9/30/2013 11:41 AM (GMT -5)
We are always by ourselves, even when we are with people.

Do a dance in the kitchen! Light candles and blow them out. Make up a silly song. SMILE! Call your family and tell them you love them. Look int he mirror and tell yourself HAPPY BIRTHDAY and I LOVE YOU.
Posted 9/30/2013 12:21 PM (GMT -5)
Happy Birthday jeoch!!!

I agree with everyone. Make your day special. Celebrate it! Do something nice for yourself on this special day because you deserve it!

Have a great birthday!

UA
Posted 9/30/2013 12:36 PM (GMT -5)
Happy Birthday Jeoch, Dance the dance of Life!

Peace
Trina
Posted 9/30/2013 6:33 PM (GMT -5)
Happy birthday, jeoch.

It sucks being lonely and on your own, nobody could know that more than me. And siblings often don't give a crap (I know that too). But I agree with the others; if nobody else is going to treat you, treat yourself. Buy yourself a nice present, something that you have wanted for a long time.

Obviously won't solve all your problems, but it might cheer you up for a bit. You should also try to get to know a few of your fellow students; you don't have to be the life and soul of the party, just try breaking the ice by saying hello and maybe asking a few questions about your course, or whatever. Most people will respond to that. Then maybe you can join them for lunch, so you're not alone at lunch. You don't have to be forever alone; small steps.
Posted 10/1/2013 3:07 AM (GMT -5)
BLESSINGS ON YOUR SPECIAL DAY,

WITH HEALING COMPASSION,
THE HAPPY TURTLE.
Posted 10/1/2013 4:04 AM (GMT -5)
Thank you all for the wishes and responds.
My family bought a bday cake,so my brother here and the sang for me on skype. That was surprising and kind.
NiceCupOfTea i do have acquaintances or some people i can call friends here but none of them calls me to meet up or just talk. I always had people around me and this place makes me depressed.It's totally different..So how about a life change...again? Don't they say that if you are depressed maybe you should make a life change?
Posted 10/2/2013 8:29 AM (GMT -5)
STAY STRONG JEOCH.

THE HAPPY TURTLE
Posted 10/2/2013 8:47 AM (GMT -5)
Jeoach, then call the people that don't call you. Sometimes, you need to make the first step.
Posted 10/2/2013 9:00 AM (GMT -5)
Making changes does help depression. Is there a hobby you would like to try or something new that you have not done yet? I hope you find something to make you feel better. I hope that you had a nice birthday.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/2/2013 9:14 AM (GMT -5)
Hi.No i did not have a nice birthday.Except that i think i am not well. I cry everyday without a specific reason and my negative thoughts are overwhelming.I think of my painful past and im afraid of the future.I am hopeless.I can't fight it.
Posted 10/2/2013 10:42 AM (GMT -5)
Sweetie, I am sorry you feel bad. Sometimes, life sucketh beyond all understanding. But you do need to be proactive here.

Are you seeing someone for counseling?

Have you been evaluated by a psychiatrist?

Are you aware of what you need to do for yourself to help your thought process about the situation improve? Are you practicing meditation, or breathing, or getting good exercise, or positive thinking?

There is no ONE route to feeling better. It's an individual process. But you do have to be active in it. It doesn't just happen to you, you have to be present in the process.
Posted 10/2/2013 11:04 AM (GMT -5)
Myself is so right Jeoch,

We are trying to direct you in the right direction. It isn't always easy, and it is work. But you will get better. Keep hanging in there and keep posting.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 10/2/2013 1:35 PM (GMT -5)
I was diagnosed with moderate depression on March and i finished my 6 month treatment on August. Im not seeing any therapist at the moment. I can't tell to my mother again that im not well and i need to see a therapist. I don't know what to do. Keep it secret and visit my psychiatrist again? I don't want to let anyone know because im not getting the proper support and that hurts.
Posted 10/2/2013 5:55 PM (GMT -5)
Well, how, exactly, do you expect to get the proper support without telling anybody?
Posted 10/3/2013 5:42 AM (GMT -5)
I don't think depression and mental issues are well understood and accepted in society.
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