Depressed partner and intimacy

I recently moved to another state after a year of being long distance with my boyfriend. We saw each other once or twice a month, no less than 3 days at a time.

Recently, he started wanting to spend less time together or has wanted me to leave early. Also, our sex life is nonexistent.

I know it's depression. He's honest with me, sees a therapist, and we also talk openly about our issues. There was quit a bit of crying at first, many times in front of him and him in front of me. I myself have dealt with depression and know what it does to a person and their soul, so it's not that I'm unaware of what is going on---I'm just struggling with the lack of intimacy.

At this point, I've made a commitment to be there for him- no pushing, berating, or trying to snap him out of it. I'm also keeping my emotions in check, although I don't let him disrespect me. But I'm scared.

Will he ever be attracted to me again or are we forever destined to have a supportive, unromantic relationship?He says he loves me and I believe him, but I crave sexual intimacy. This is not about me, but how long am I supposed to wait to see if we get through this? This a fairly new relationship but I've never met a person like him before-truly amazing.

I would appreciate any insight from about this topic. Has anyone ever been there and come through it all as a stronger couple? how did you deal with the lack of intimacy?

Post Edited By Moderator (BnotAfraid) : 11/20/2015 8:24:16 AM (GMT-7)

Hi leig,

I wanted to share with you that a man's diet can greatly affect a couple's intimacy. If a man has caffeine or sugar, this can cause issues for some. Doctors need to talk about this.

Here are a couple links to good articles:

http://www.livestrong.com/article/28032-can-caffeine-cause-erectile-dysfunction/

http://www.livestrong.com/article/384317-the-effects-of-sugar-on-male-health/

When I think about all the men out there who are having issues and it might just be sensitivity to the above, WOW.

If a man doesn't have the ability to be intimate, he will pull away. Think how much this hurts their pride.

when your partner begins to relax in his mind things will take there course.

welcome.

am coffee........let's get serious. if you are a diabetic. blood flow from the small veins can inhibit an erection, not intimacy, as this has many forms, and you still can be intimate. desire I understand due to not as he sees as satisfying his partner. and as stated, just depressed. couples counselling will be benefical I feel.