I am struggling with depressed feelings

Hi, my name is Rich.

I'm falling for the old thinking that the holidays have to be perfect or great. In reality, they are just another day. At least this year I don't have to participate in a big gathering. But I do want to say I seem to have all kinds of thoughts that things have to go well. In reality, some will and some won't.

I live with my sister and feel cramped (emotionally) sometimes when she is around. She will be off for 4 days and I need to focus on myself and get out there and do some things. I already have part of a plan in place for that.

Just wanted to post here and say that I am struggling with depressed feelings and thoughts, which I know will pass eventually (faster probably if I will just feel them), but they sure are horrible when they come up.

Love, Rich

It is just a day. Get yourself out and about. I like to go places on holidays, like into a city or a place I have always wanted to visit. Very little is open, and the businesses are closed, and it is a great time to wander around and look at things. Of course, you can't stop for a bite or a drink, but you do get a chance to look at that cool piece of architecture with no one around.

I just started cooking. I am actually trying some new flavors. I generally am pretty hard-core about my recipes for Thanksgiving--traditional flavours and whatnot. I decided to try a new pie (black-bottom pumpkin) and a new cranberry sauce (Cuban). Since we are kinda broke, I foreswore my wild mushroom soup this year--buying the mushrooms is always a pricey proposition. I am doing a butternut curry instead. I am not making sauerkraut salad this year--I always made it for my mom, and just didn't want to this year.

Never heard of a Black-Bottom Pumpkin Pie, had to go look it up. I could probably be tempted to try a piece! lol

Holidays used to really depress me, but I've stopped celebrating them, and I just take it for what it is, a relaxing day free of work. It's a lot of pressure to have to do the whole family thing, or host something, I'd rather just sit around with my pets and watch movies, listen to music, go for a bike ride, cook something, order takeout. It bugs me that society ostracizes people who don't fit the mold of what it leads us to believe is the only path in life. I am over trying to be something i am not. if I want to sit here and do zero all day, I will do that & I will not allow the world to make me feel bad about myself.

Have a relaxing day without obligations. Spoil yourself a bit perhaps. Eat something good. Buy yourself a gift if you desire - everything is on sale... That's how I like to spend holidays.

HI Rich,

I believe Holidays are what we make of them, and should be observed in a way that allows us to contemplate our gratitude and contentments.

However, that may be done.

Not respecting someones way of celebrating or observing a holiday I think is cause for a lot of anxiety of the 'season"

This is the first year in my life, yes, my whole life [I am 56] That I truely looked forward Thanksgiving, joyfully made the fixings, when to mother-in-laws happily set the table as a surprise for her. [she is in a wheel chair]

John cooked the turkey breast.

Just the 3 of us, and it was lovely.

I was me, no planning on what I could do to get my family to like me. This was a constant effort my whole life. Only realized in 2012, that I didn't need to do that, that I was enough and it was there issue.

Rich, being who we are is self-love, kindness and compassion. That leads us to love other people and spreading tolerance.

I have been working on self-compassion for just over a year, I can say for certain, that I can see the difference in me and how people respond to me.

I hold my head up know, literally. Make eye contact. A whole new world is opening up slowing.

I wish you peace and strength.

The same for you notsosicklygirl

Trina

Yes!, fast freeze, off on the next plane mate!

Sending email this weekend, saw Neuro on 11/21 game plan change....