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Posted 9/19/2020 10:25 PM (GMT -5)


Hi i am not sure if it should be posted here but feel free to move it to correct location if it not.



My work currently now have some issues with my colleague, both of them are frustrated at me *****at work, i tried my best to catch up with them but no matter what i do they always tell me " think yourself no need me to tell you" "you're a senior you shouldent *****simple mistakes". i know i am fault here but i did ask them what is my mistake but they don't want to tell me, just ask me to think over. My family also thinks i am happy at work but when in fact i am not. it hard for me to give a happy face when my face is sad and stressed. I don't know how long i can cope to stay positive at the same time when it's negative. how can i solve this problem of mine. an advice would be good for me.



-Sliverboi

Post Edited By Moderator (BnotAfraid) : 9/23/2020 2:40:41 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 9/23/2020 3:49 PM (GMT -5)
welcome

I edited you post for language. Please take time to review forum rules.

First I would say honesty is most likely the best way to correct this.

Starting with your parents. No one can help if they don't know you have trouble.

As for your job, here are a few things you can do.

1. If you are a supervisor or manager, and do not know something; it is your responsibility to learn.
Ask your supervisor for more training or
A day to discuss things that you have made a list of.

You have to own the position to earn respect

2.Get a new job! Then quit the current job.
Posted 10/15/2020 3:30 AM (GMT -5)
follow the process, know your rights and obligations, from the employer,
the companies policies and grievance process,
document everything.
seek assistance from job advocacy - gov agencies etc. Employee rights wages discrimination, etc.
they exist in all countries. Stand up for yourself. HT
Posted 10/15/2020 7:10 AM (GMT -5)
Agreed with Trina and HT: Honesty and transparency are best. In the past, I have had certain people tell me "think about what you did wrong." That's a toxic response made in bad faith, and these people were effectively being bullies.

Is there anyone else you could talk to? In my experience, toxic bullies are best ignored and bypassed. They will eventually get what's coming to them.

That's just my 2c, given the facts you present and without knowing the broader context.
Posted 10/15/2020 7:37 AM (GMT -5)
Why do you feel you have to 'catch up with them'? Is this a recent lag? What thoughts are intruding and distracting you from the work?

I used to work at a cloth diaper laundry. Found I made repeated mistakes on pack out...simply because the radio was distracting me! Simple solution...we changed the station! More upbeat music and a Spanish station, so I wouldn't focus on lyrics. I know not every situation has a simple solution, but one never knows until we try.

Do these mistakes/lags happen at a certain time of day? After lunch? I found that if I ate too much, it caused me to be sluggish and unfocused.

Ask for a meeting with coworkers AND a supervisor/mediator/witness. Clear the air. Sometimes explaining that you have added pressure from other sources and need a little assistance is all it takes.
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