will nutra sweet raise my sugar or whole grain bread

Captnemo, all the food you're describing is full of carbohydrates.  If you aren't overweight and if you aren't having problems with high blood sugar and if diabetes doesn't run in your family, then you can stop reading right here.  However, if any of these conditions pertain to you, then read on.  As I said in the other post, you have to cut down on the carbs.  Sugar-free cookies and cakes have flour.  Flour is a carbohydrate and will raise your blood sugar.  Bread, even whole grain, will have some effect on blood sugar depending on the person and depending on what you eat with it.  Brown rice is a carb.  Candy bars, Drakes Cakes, corn and beans, gravy and stuffing - all carbs.  They will raise your blood sugar.  If you eat a decent dinner with a piece of chicken (any meat or fish) and a couple of vegetables, some slices of cucumber, a couple of radishes, olives or a small salad, you will do a lot better with the the blood sugar and you won't feel bored and hungry later on at night.  There are wonder ways to eat on a low-carb diet.  Please read through our posts from the past that talk about food.  Also, if you overdo the artificial sweeteners, like Nutrasweet, you might still have a rise in blood sugar.  How do you know if your blood sugar is normal or not?  Do you have a blood sugar monitor?

When you took the fasting blood sugar test, was it in the morning after not eating for about 8 hours?  You hate vegetables?  All of them?

Ok.  Good luck on the fasting test.  Carrots, peas and corn have a lot of carbs compared to other vegetables.  Eat them in moderation.  Stay away from potatoes, too.  If your blood test is normal, that's great.  Still, I think you're overloading yourself with all those carbs.  If you boost up the protein (meats, chicken..), you'll feel fuller longer and you won't have a need to binge on sugary food later in the evening. 

It's possible for some people to control their blood sugar by diet and exercise alone.  If you don't have a blood sugar monitor, I don't know how you'd know how well you'd be doing that though.  The fact that you did have 168 shows that you're not processing carbohydrates normally and you could do well to cut down on carbs in your diet.  I think you should start with a visit to your doctor so he or she knows what's going on.  Only doctors can assess the need for medication.  Otherwise, if this is something you're doing by yourself, it wouldn't hurt to get onto a new eating plan (Your wife is right) and start a regular exercise plan.  The bottom line is stop eating those sugary things. 

If your pancreas is not producing insulin or not enough insulin, the doctor would put you on insulin.  There are other drugs that are prescribed first that help your body work with the insulin you produce.  These help keep your blood sugar in more normal levels as long as you're still producing insulin.  You might be insulin resistant, meaning the insulin can't get into the cells when needed, so some medication is prescribed to facilitate that.  Sometimes you can control your blood sugar yourself by diet and exercise but that means severely cutting back on carbs.  That's the point where I am now but I also monitor my blood sugar every day because I have a blood glucose monitor (in fact, I have three).  I see the doctor every 6 months at which time the lab runs blood tests.  This is how I know where my blood sugar is.  I believe your primary physician should know what's going on with the tests you're taking.  This is just my opinion but I'm not a doctor.