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Posted 9/3/2012 12:33 PM (GMT -5)
I am 23 with an almost one year old baby girl. When I was pregnant I felt super awesome and now my fibro has come back and it seems like it is mad. I am trying to make my boyfriend see that this isn't an act that I really am in a lot of pain. I was the woman that had three jobs and was still able to do more. Now I find it hard to just clean my own house. I need some advise. It feels like I am falling apart from the inside out and I can't stop it.
Posted 9/3/2012 2:26 PM (GMT -5)
Sorry to hear you're going through this at such a young age.

My advice is try and take optimal care of yourself through diet, daily light exercise, stretches, supplements, a good night's sleep, and try to keep your stress to a minimum.

Diet: My fibro becomes worse if I eat the wrong foods. I feel somewhat better when I eat the right ones.

Daily light exercise: To release those feel good hormones and help relieve stress, to keep yourself limber and less tight. Exercise is good for depression too especially walks outdoors.

Stretches: To help deal with the tightness.

Supplements: I take a good multivitamin and krill oil for my dry eyes.

Sleep: I would have a very difficult time sleeping if it wasn't for the sleep supplements I take.


Stress: Exercise helps with this and talking with a good friend. Coming into this forum and sharing and advising also helps.

If you go to a doctor who is knowledgeable about fibro I would suggest that you take your b/f along so he can better understand what you're going through.

It would be so easy for myself and others to sit around and feel sorry for ourselves but it would only make the fibro more difficult to deal with.

Good luck to you.

Posted 9/3/2012 2:41 PM (GMT -5)
Hi there,

I agree with all of the above post. I think you got some very good advice. I wanted to add that we have an awesome thread called "fibro 101". It is the first thread on the forum. It is a sticky thread that will always be there for future reference.

I almost forgot, welcome to the forum. I hope that you feel better soon. Please don't let fibro cause you to unable to do anything. Fight with all your might by walking and exercises. And don' tforget to stretch.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 9/3/2012 6:15 PM (GMT -5)
You might want your dr to test your thyroid and adrenal levels. When they are unbalanced, it can make my fibro worse.
Posted 9/3/2012 9:02 PM (GMT -5)
Welcome Mumma yeah You have recieved some great advice!

I find it easier to keep up with housework if I set up a routine. Doing a little each day rather than waiting for it everything to build up. While doing laundry, I'll put music on and do dusting while the clothes are washing...pacing is important...make time for breaks. Working to music is much more enjoyable and I tend to get more done.

My home is not spotless...but I am more content now that I don't expect perfection from myself...I'm ok at "good enough." I'd rather spend time taking care of my health and doing fun things with hubby and friends. Having fun is a wonderful way to keep the stress down. Less stress means less pain. Taking time for gentle stretching or going for a walk helps get the kinks out and re-energizes me.

I agree that taking your boyfriend with you to a doctor appointment

would be great. Don't be afraid to ask for help from him when you need it.

It takes time to find out what works for you...that includes finding the right med combo. We are all so differant...many of us are deficient in Vitamin D. If you have not been tested, you should be.

Vitamin D deficiency will make you ache even more. I take vitan D along with a Vitamin B12 supplement and a good multi vitamin.

Rheumy prescribed Savella and Flexeril and both have helped.

Moist heating pads are used on a daily basis for achey muscles. Long soaks in the tub are beneficial too. Meditation is part of relaxation therapy for me...deep breathing and visualisation all help reduce stress. There are many things that can help, one of the best things is keeping a positive mindset...believing you can feel better, and taking it one day at a time.

So glad you have joined us...post often...we care :-)

Hugs, Robin tongue

Posted 9/3/2012 10:20 PM (GMT -5)
Hi Mumma.

Fibro can be pretty scary, when it flares up like you're describing. I was never the woman who could do it all, but I could sure do a heck of a lot more before it "got" me!

Unfortunately, we do have to learn how to work with it...it will most likely always be with us. My hubby always says, "someday, they're gonna invent a pill..." Well, I'm not holding my breath.

Glad you found your way here. We do care, and someone is usually home.

Debbie
Posted 9/4/2012 7:25 AM (GMT -5)
Some very helpful advice from others in here.

I'd like to throw in that due to my back and neck injury along with my fibro, I have to limit how much I do. For example how long I sit and where I sit, how long I stand, how long I walk, how much I lift, and how long I socialize.

My fiance knows I have to live in a bubble of sorts. I'm relieved he's supportive of that.

I wish you the best.
Posted 9/4/2012 8:10 AM (GMT -5)
Hi, Mumma, and welcome!  Boy, our members just about covered everything!  Yes, definitely pace yourself.  Things will get done but in a different time frame.  If you really push yourself one day, you will be just about useless the next day.  You want to make things as "evenly" as possible.  For example, I have a lot of tile in my home.  Mopping is one of the more difficult things for me to do so I will mop part of the floors one day and the remainder the next day.  It all gets done but I don't cause more pain doing it.  (I use a Nitty Gritty Roller Mop by Libman.  The handle is angled and it's sooooo much easier on the back than a regular mop.)

 

Something that has helped me as much as the medication and supplements I take for my illnesses is maintaining a positive attitude in spite of these illnesses.  If you think about how you feel, the things you have more difficulty doing, etc., you will hurt more, become more anxious and can become depressed.  Instead, look at the many blessing you have, what you CAN do and I know that is a lot, too!  You have a beautiful child, a boyfriend you love, a roof over your head, etc.  Focus on all the beauty that is around you.  I know there is a lot of that.  All this lifts your mood. 

 

Find a hobby you enjoy doing.  You will focus on that instead of how you feel and the pain fades somewhat in the background.  For me it's working on genealogy.  Love it!  There is a link in Fibro 101 that Karen mentioned all about maintaining a positive attitude.  This really does work and it keeps you healthier also!

 

I'm looking forward to getting to know you better.  Don't hesitate to ask questions because we are here to help you.  Hope to hear more from  you soon.

 

Sherrine

Posted 9/4/2012 4:14 PM (GMT -5)
Thank you everyone. This has really helped me. I don't have any type of support group. But now I do. I also have another question. Has anyone had really dry red itchy skin on your neck? It is totally new. And I haven't changed anything that I use on my skin.
Posted 9/4/2012 4:28 PM (GMT -5)
Not on my neck, but on the front of my chest... arrived after the birth of my son. Only goes away with steroid cream or oral steroids... never been diagnosed but one homeopathic dr said weak adrenals, another dr suspected lupus but negative for that.
Posted 9/4/2012 4:57 PM (GMT -5)
I am going to the doctor in a week. Why is it fibro has so many things that come with it? And there isn't a test for it......
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