Need someone to talk to about anxiety.

Having a real hard time with my anxiety right now, hoping some fellow lymies can give some insight into this.
This isn't totally lyme induced, but it does make my situation worse. I just really need some help.

Post Edited (YourTrueFriend) : 3/19/2021 1:47:11 PM (GMT-6)

It's hard not to think about girls when you're in your twenties though, Pickle :)

I don't know what to tell you about relationships, except go slow, and take it one step at a time. Don't dive into sex too soon, and btw, make sure you wear a condom. I hope you don't mind my telling you this; but Lyme can be sexually transmitted, or at least some LLMDs and researchers say so.

If you're feeling anxious, maybe you can talk to the girl about it. Talking through things is the best remedy for relationship anxiety.

Good luck,

Margaret

I would suggest looking for a lyme literate psychologist. I don't have great advice, but at some point it sounds like you felt you had to play games and haven't been able to break that pattern. Maybe it stems from not being noticed enough in your formative years on high school? Would you consider yourself to be insecure, sometimes that is the root of things like this. As far as the anxiety I'm sorry, it's an awful feeling. It really sounds as though you need to find someone good to talk to!

I'm glad your anxiety is a little better. It's a shame you don't think you would be able to find a LL therapist. Are there support groups around you? I think most people have "stuff" they carry with them from childhood/adolescents regardless of what it is. You don't have to live in bondage to it. You can be who ever you want to be, and you can live however you want to live. You have your whole life ahead of you, this is a chapter of your life so use it to help yourself gain perspective, compassion, and to be more in touch with who you are and who you want to be. There are silver linings in everything, we just have to look for them sometimes. The right relationship will come when it's time. Focus on you right now, then everything else will follow. :)

YourTrueFriend,

We are a lot alike. I am in my late 20s. All through high school, I was always picked on and no one ever liked me... see I live a drug free lifestyle and that is just so NOT cool. I still live this lifestyle and I am still not cool. lol. I felt so unattractive and I was severely anorexic (I got through that quickly though! Thank goodness)

After high school, boys started to like me! I couldn't believe it. But I felt the same way you did, that something would happen and these guys would stop liking me. So I usually just ended it before that happened and became depressed.

But trust me, you will find someone! I finally found someone, while on a date with another guy LOL, and we have been together for 8 years and will be married for 2 years in May.

But I really think you should focus on yourself right now. You need to get better. Girls just complicate everything! lol. it's true, I admit it.

Also, about the safe sex... hmmm I don't know other ways of saying this but... there are other forms of "sex" and intimacy to watch out for. I believe this is how I passed Lyme to my husband...we have always worn condoms because I'm obsessive over not getting prego. lol

I had really bad anxiety a few years ago after being hit head on by a drunk driver. My psychologist told me to write everything down. Because I was keeping it in, not talking about the accident with anyone. It really helped. She also told me when I was alone in my car, to just scream. I was like, ummm no. lol But I did it and it felt REALLY good to just let it all out.

P.S. I also tried to talk to friends and family about this disease, they pretty much just think I'm a nut case.