Well, I'm late to the party as usual!!
First of all, I'd like to repeat what has been said - no one ever has to apologize for not being here because they were trying to care for themselves - that's actually something that we Mods remind each other of frequently - Your own health absolutely MUST always come before the forum!!!
So, while I'm so very sorry that you all had to take a break from the forum, don't ever feel bad and please do return as you can!! We love hearing from you!!!
Some people have trouble getting rid of Bartonella, some people have trouble getting rid of Babesia, some deal with mold and that's what is holding back their healing, others deal with adrenal or thyroid issues and that holds back their healing or whatever. I can say that it seems that I have healed from Bartonella, and Babesia though - at least I'm 3 years with no symptoms from any of the infections, other than the Lyme that I was reinfected with last summer - and those symptoms are gone too.
With the experience that I had personally, and what I've watched others go through, here is what I believe needs to happen for many of us to heal:
a)Detoxing - gene mutations, mold exposure and multiple tick-borne infections can all prevent us from detoxing well, but we must be able to get those toxins out of our bodies.
b)Supporting the body functions/systems. We have to have the body working at it's peak performance to heal from something as devastating as these infections. Supporting any gland, organ, body system that is struggling will allow the body to switch it's 'concentration' from just trying to function over to healing.
c) Raise the immune function. Many legitimate Lyme researchers now believe that it's the lowered immune function that determines who gets chronic Lyme and who heals right away. We already know that Lyme lowers the immune function and when a person has Bartonella and/or Babesia, the immune function is further compromised, so to heal we must raise our immune function.
d) Lastly, oddly enough, are anti-infective treatments. Many of us have experienced treatment failures, so we can see that the treatments aren't the only thing we need to have - there has to be more to the equation, but anti-infective treatments are very important!! Lyme bacteria are one of the most complicated bacteria! Although it takes only hours or days for most bacteria to replicate, Lyme bacteria only replicates in the body every few weeks.
It's a shame that we must all become very good detectives to be able to heal from these infections, but we do what we must!