Losing my job, really depressed, scared to death what will happen to me

I couldn't sleep last night My only hope is to be approved for LTD. I can't help but feel so ashamed. I was the one who was to take care of my wife and wanted to help my kids financially. I have a cognitive impairment and I'm afraid I'm in the beginnings of dementia. My doc tells me I can get better but I have my doubts. My Mom started with cognitive impairments when she was my age too and passed eventually from dementia.

Hey Kct,

I understand that you feel ashamed and this weighing you down.

Please let's just take a step away from it all, for just a few moments.

Relax your shoulders and breathe.

Try to go back to a place or memory when you were happy or enjoying something.

Let those feelings help your body to relax and let your mind come to a place of relation and peace.

Even if its only for a few brief moments...

After taking a few moments away lets consider some things...

First, even though our response to crisis is stress, fear of the unknown, sadness and despair

Do those relaxtion things above, so that you can come to a better place to access the situation.

It's so easy to fall into panic mode when facing these issues.

Panic and despair will only make you feel worse.

Start by making a list of any other possible resources... there are groups and foundations that do help with medical issues and Lyme.

Research local and state resources for help with any housing, food or any kind of support they may offer.

Reach out to your loved ones...and let them know how you feel.

Seek their help as a family working together to get through this together.

Have them help with researching any treatments that may be of help.

In life it always seems to be about finances and work and success...but the greater gift will be the love, strength, bonds and lessons that your family will make helping each other in this time.

Keep fighting, stay strong and I wish you all the best of healing.

Here's a few sites hopefully others will chime in too



/lymelightfoundation.org/

/www.lymedisease.org/financial-assistance/


/sites.google.com/site/lymedoctors/


This below is also a resource for trying to find a way to make extra money.


I understand you have cognitive issues but for a family member so they can maybe help

[url]https://www.daveramsey.com/blog/how-to-make-extra-money?utm_source=cnl&utm_medium=email&utm_content=4.15cnl_how_to_make_extra_money&utm_term=everydollar_bu&utm_campaign=cnl_newsletter&cd17=CNL+180415+B


Please remember we are here and that you are not facing this alone.
Reach out to us for support and understanding at ant time.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this Kct.

Know that we do understand and are here to support you the best we can.

You’ve been given some good resources.

You are strong and you WILL get through this.

we are all here for you! I have felt and still do feel so much of what you do - i can resonate with this 100%%%
i' live in ct and have been looking for a meet up support group but nobody responded to my post..
maybe we can meet halfway?

Hi KCT, I understand your fear of losing your job. I've been there.

in 2008 I lost my job due to down-sizing. My wife and daughter had just lost their jobs a few months earlier. As a guy, I always felt like it is my responsibility to bring in the money and that my family depends on me. I remember driving home that day and not knowing how I was going to tell my wife that I had lost my job. I imagined the worst. How were we going to eat? pay the mortgage? Pay for healthcare? How was I going to find a job when so many people were loosing their jobs?

I was bringing in $4,000.00 a month after taxes so I assumed that our State unemployment insurance would be close to that. Wrong! I was getting $445 a month. How was I going to pay our mortgage, bills and food with $445 a month?

I was without a job for a year. In that time we used up all of our savings and 401K to keep our home and pay for food. It got to the point where we were unable to pay the mortgage. I remember as if it was yesterday the day I had to write to our bank to let them know that I could not pay my mortgage any more.

After a year I was finally able to get a job. Although it paid half of what I was making, it was enough to pay the mortgage and some of the bills. My wife, who used to work at a prestigious law firm, had to take a job at Target making $9.00 an hour so we could put food on our table.

Eventually things started to get better and we began to slowly get out of that hole. But three years later I got infected with Lyme, then my wife got infected. And so each day, we struggle day to day to make it forward one day at a time.

I tell you all of this so that you can see that in life, things happen. Bad things. And most of the time it seems as if life has it in for you, like we just can't catch a break. But one thing that I have learned is that we can never give up. We have to use every bit of strength and courage to get out of bed each day and to use 110% of our energies to keep moving forward. Yes, sometimes our 110% is only 20% for a normal person. But hey, those are the cards that we are dealt with, so lets stay in the game and play hard. Right?

Thank you so much for sharing your history. Its good to hear about other people and how they keep moving forward.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPNC-NNQJ9c

Just took a chance that you might appreciate this as much as I do. Peace

I thought this might help. It's written by an Outreach Coordinator for the Disability Benefits Help Center, offering to help clarify the process of applying for coverage for people with Lyme disease.



/www.bayarealyme.org/blog/lyme-disease-disability-benefits/