Time to look elsewhere

“ Just wanted to say I don't think moderators should act as if they are higher than anyone else in a sense of threatening to delete ppl and claiming they're disrespectful …..”

We aren’t “ higher” but our job is to moderate which sometimes means banning someone who is not following the rules.

Plain and simple.

BTW - it’s not often that a member is banned from the forum. Few and far between

It appeared to me that if one person (either one) had stopped replying to the other in the other thread, I don't think it would have had to be locked. Might want to keep this in mind in the future to avoid helpful threads from being locked. It takes two to continue an argument.

Being on this site for many years now, I have never found a moderator, who volunteers, to be the type to look down on people. As some have said, there are rules that they enforce. Anytime I am in a situation where I find it uncomfortable, I find a different place to go. Not suggesting anyone do that, but that is how I handle things.

I've written this many times, but this site has helped me keep what little sanity I have left. Offensive is sometimes blatant and sometimes how we personally perceive what was written or meant. I rarely have seen offensive on t his site, but have seen a tremendous amount of compassion and help. Much of that is from the moderators themselves.

Lyme has made me see how small many things are in comparison to what I'm dealing with. If someone is offensive to me, it bounces off like it never happened because it doesn't matter in my life. I'm not a victim and will not let anyone try to make me one. Everyone's help on here is appreciated, and the moderators I've come in contact with are to be commended in my world.

running wild said...
Being on this site for many years now, I have never found a moderator, who volunteers, to be the type to look down on people. As some have said, there are rules that they enforce. Anytime I am in a situation where I find it uncomfortable, I find a different place to go. Not suggesting anyone do that, but that is how I handle things.

I've written this many times, but this site has helped me keep what little sanity I have left. Offensive is sometimes blatant and sometimes how we personally perceive what was written or meant. I rarely have seen offensive on t his site, but have seen a tremendous amount of compassion and help. Much of that is from the moderators themselves.

Lyme has made me see how small many things are in comparison to what I'm dealing with. If someone is offensive to me, it bounces off like it never happened because it doesn't matter in my life. I'm not a victim and will not let anyone try to make me one. Everyone's help on here is appreciated, and the moderators I've come in contact with are to be commended in my world.

good post RW

I posted this because not I who started an issue before bt another member had. The moderator constantly was answering or speaking for the other member who was at fault which was defending the member or either speaking for them every time they responded wrongly ro the other person's comment which shouldn't be allowed and I feel like that's what got everything going in the 1st place (ppl defending what the wrong doer is saying or repeating what the wrong doer is saying as if we can't read it ourselves and as if it was t offensive enough when the wrong doer said it, so why repeat it or come to their defense)? I call that being nosy or bored for stuff like that. I know we all have our own opinions and I come off as snobby or a u know it all to ppl all just because I'm big on self advocating or speaking on behalf of others so I know how things can easily be mistaken or it can seem like someone is coming off the wrong way. I just don't think the moderator should have came to the other person's defense and staring what they stated, I felt that was ramping it all up. I didn't get to reply bk so I will now. Girlie I was never ever talking about you when I posted the whole "complaining about being only 90% better"!! I just remember seeing it in posts a few times and never even paid attention to who posted it. The only reason I mentioned it was because I literally felt the emotional and mental pain of reading "I've only ever gotten 90% better, and my 1st thought was omg I'd love to be even 50% better right now at least and I'd be grateful at least. Idk if the other pp were coming off as ungrateful and complaining , all I was speaking for was for myself because I wish I was 90% or at least even 10% better! I was not directing it towards you or anyone though I was just generally speaking because you aren't the only person who had posted here. And I'm sorry if anyone felt I offended them or was directing it towards them. Most ppl on here know I would have just said their screen name and quoted them! I can be extremely offensive at times but I an adult and admit that like we all do so I get why Girly probably thought that.