Hi Gordon. I remember you well from the UC forum and recollect that you sure have had your share of problems with the UC and now THIS!!! OY!
I have a permanent ileo and have never used the two piece system. Frankly, I couldn't get the hang of the Hollister snap on jobs and Edgepark just sent me a sample of the Coloplast two piece bags. Personally, I think the one piece Coloplast Sensura bags are AWESOME!!! Whereas I had two Hollister bags actually BREAK on me
....not fun....the Coloplast are much sturdier. I also like the lip of the bag where it empties. Everyone has their own personal views on this and I am sure you will be hearing from a lot of people. I change my bag every third day or so.
It is quite understandable that you are having some depression issues as you have been through a LOT! Talk things over with a health care professional. You may be able to get some medication to help you get over this hump. Keep remembering, ...this too shall pass. God bless.