Husband continues to be "special" (Advanced Prostate Cancer)

Amy, sorry to hear the news. I'm sending kind thought, prayers and strong wishes to you and he, hoping and praying for a reversal. Stay strong, take time to take care of yourself and keep in touch.

Will be thinking of both of you. Be strong.

Amy,

I wish for you and yours the best. Like the rest of us I will have the two of you and your entire family in my prayers.

Michael

Amy,

Sending kind thoughts and prayers from the wife and I both. Stay strong.

Greetings, Amy.  Thanks for the great support you are providing your husband.  I know he appreciates it - my wife is my biggest supporter and I'm more grateful than words can ever express.  We will be praying for both of you in these days.  David

Wait a minute, stop stop, do not say you want another year with him. You want many many years with him. I am praying right now for the emotional and spiritual healing that I feel is important in fighting off this disease. If our words have away of manifesting themselves into reality then by all means everyone in your family needs to be wanting years and years. I do not stick my head in the sand and fully understand what refractory cancer can do. I myself am stage 4 gleason 9. I surround myself with positive information, from the things I read, write, say, do, people I am around. This cancer is bad enough to deal with please please remain positive.
Please write to me sometime and lets talk about the aspects of this and life itself. We are all going to live this thing out. Call me silly I am ok with that. I just want all of us to be around for years to come.
I love you all and yes I am sending many good thoughts and well wishes.

peace love and joy
dale

Amy, the prayers of myself and my wife will be with you.

My wife was diagnosed with cancer in November 2005. She has undergone chemo and stem cell transplant. Her immune system is weakened and she continually fights against flus, colds and pneumonias, Her latest episode resulted in a 7 week stay in the hospital (3 weeks in ICU on a ventilator). This trial ended today when she came home to me.

My own journey with cancer started 3 days after she went into the hospital when I got the results of my biopsy that confirmed the presence of PC.

We both feel very strongly in the power of prayer. Many of the professionals that delat with my wife over the last seven weeks call her return to me a miracle.

If we are a little closer to God's ear in our prayers, rest assured that our prayers will be with you and your husband.

You are not alone. I have been the caregiver and now will be the patient. My faith has not waivered and my hope is still as strong.

I know in my heart that my wife and I will enjoy many years of life together yet.

Our prayers are with you.

Sonny

Amy, I'm sorry to hear this. It takes a lot of love to face a loss rather than have him suffer. If it was my wife of 43 glorious years I don't know how I'd be able to be as selfless and reach the point you have.

Unlike Dale and Jeff, if I read them correctly, I don't see your facing one of the possible outcomes and reaching decisions concerning it, as being either negative, or precluding having a gung ho positive outlook. Matter of fact, I think having looked death in the face, and called its bluff, you can be far more positive than if you hadn't. For me an important part of being positive is my understanding/belief that adding life to my years is far better than simply adding years to my life. Of course, one wishes for both, but I don't think any of us who have prostate cancer, regardless of pathology numbers, are unmindful of the fact that we may yet wind up in the small group that doesn't do well and are resolved to cut the cloth of our lives accordingly.

I applaud your stance, and admire your love. You are a rock.

Where Dale, Jeff and myself likely do come together is in encouraging you, as I'm sure you are, to also be a sunshine person for your husband and yourself. Be his span 20 months or 20 years (and you will be on my prayer list this evening that it is 20 years) fill each day, hour and minute with the sunshine of positive energy. There is a world of difference between acknowledging and accepting worst outcomes and allowing that to then be the central theme of life.

Sheldon AKA Sleepless

I am reminded of the line of poetry;
"Though much is taken, much remains"
If your worried about pain and you husband's future I urge you to talk to his doctors. If it proves necessary, there is much that can be done to mitigate pain and they may be able to reassure you.

Thanks for the support - Yes of course I'd love more then one year - but like I said he continues to be special - hormone therapy worked for a bit, and now the standard chemo has quit working - so I'm hoping the "special" husband has good luck with the new im clone study and the old school chemo and the cancer can be held in check and he can be feeling better and back at least partway to his old self. It's hard to believe just 2 years ago we were in France participating in a huge endurance cycling event. This is way harder then any endurance event.

Amy, Of all the twists and turns on this journey, the one that angers me the most is knowing some real advances are being made in prostate cancer research, but the time to get those in public use doesn't match the timetable some of us are facing. I say go for the clinical study. And I agree with what others have said, stay positive! Faith, Hope and Love are the spiritual virtues that keep us going. You and your husband will be in my prayers. Bless you, both. Bill