YaYa,
Best wishes to you and your husband in the coming months.
Has your husband been active in researching a plan of action? It is a big burden on you if he is relying on you to gather all of the information. Is he still set on having surgery for treatment? A caring partner is very important for the well-being and recovery of the patient. If you are up to the task you may have to let go of some of the other busyness in your life right now.
Continue to seek support from your friends at healingwell,
Dan