my date with the robot is a week from today (06/06)

With my surgery a week from today I found myself more and more questioning my decision making process.  I figured by wednesday I'd be in pure panic mode.  But then I came accross this: 

“You are now at a crossroads. This is your opportunity to make the most important decision you will ever make. Forget your past. Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don't think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.” - Anthony Robbins

So, at least for now, I'm good with the decision I have made...... for now.  Cheers!

 

Best of luck to you! In about a week when the cath comes out you'll feel better. Rest and be patient.. It's a slow return to normalcy but it will happen.

I'm 3 mos post op went in for my 1st PSA test yesterday.. Still waiting on results. I'm physically back to normal, can do strenuous activity. Incontinence is almost non-existent. I have no regrets choosing surgery. See you on the flip side!

You'll do fine. RP is well understood and very successful !
Good luck!
Bob

Last minute jitters and second guessing is most common.

Good luck, you should do very well.

When I look back on the whole process it was the biggest change that has ever happened in my life. I was scared and exhausted from searching for the right answer. I felt desparate to make a decision and end it. Get the cancer out and move on as quickly as possible toward my recovery. The surgery seemed the most logical and really the only real choice that made sense at the time. There is that emence urge to get this over as soon as possible, because who knows you could be spreading and not even know it. It's fear at it's finest. You feel trapped into making a decision. You muster you manhood and say you can handle it, I'm tough enough, brave enough to face what has been dealt me. You jump because you can't see any other way out, besides some Voo-Doo magic treatment that seems impossible. All I can say is this, if your sex life is important to you don't wait to talk with the smartest people you can find to intiate the recovery process as soon as possible after your surgery. It seems that almost all the other side effects clear up nicely. The physical recovery seemed pretty easy really. You stumble around for while deal with the cathered thing and that goes ok. You can see the changes for the better over time and you learn to cope with the temporary set back of pads and wet pants. You can sense it getting better and that feels good. You feel a sense of I did it I got through that operation and I had the courage to do it. The ED and possible Peyronies is the tough nut for me and I think the vast majority of us victims. If God is kind to you your pathology will come back clear, your nerves will be spared and your PSA will be at the what they call 0, maybe .02 or .04. Don't delay the ED recovery get a smart person to help you. I don't think the surgeon really cares about the ED much other then he did his job the best he knew how to save your physical portion.

If I were to look back I would look at that HIFU process spend the money and time to investigate it. Thats what I would have done. I would not have paniced and took the bait on what the surgeons were telling me.  

Two years ago I was in your shoes. A wise friend, a prostate cancer survivor, told me that "in a year, this will all be a sightly horrible memory." He was right. It's no fun, it's humiliating and frightening, but with a good surgeon's care, a certain amount of luck and good margins, and the support of the important people in your life, it's temporary. I won't say I'm glad I had prostate cancer, but it clarified my thinking on many aspects of my life. And my orgasms are better. Go figure.

Age 50
PSA 5.1
Biopsy positive on 3 or 12 cores. Gleason score 3+4
Da Vinci performed at Methodist Hospital, Houston TX, July 2013.
Clear margins. PSA baseline. Continent at 6 weeks, first erection at two months post op.