Thanks again for the update. You are on a solid path forward.
You asked: "
What a mess, how do you guys deal with this stuff"
The reality is that as your patient education builds, it becomes much less confusing. In my own personal opinion, and this is shared by quite a number of the leading pathologists who specialize in prostate cancer, the medical community does a real disservice to many men by calling what you've got AND what others at the other end of the spectrum have by the same name: "prostate cancer."
The word "cancer" conjures up fear of dying a quick and painful death in our society, and prompts emotionally-based responses like your wife's. No disrespect for that...it's widely recognized as being the common first response.
I think it throws favorable-risk men like us "under the bus" by branding us with the label "cancer." That term puts lots of favorable-risk men on a slippery slope leading to overtreatment.
Anyhow, no need to dwell on this now...my point in these
opening sentences is that all this becomes more clear and less of a "mess" as your own patient education matures and develops, and then it becomes less emotional, frightening & confusing. I encourage men in cases like yours to take the time to educate yourself...you have absolutely nothing indicating you should rush.
Have you ordered the book I recommended "Invasion of the Prostate Snatchers" yet? Are you a reader? I don't (of course) make medical recommendations to men who show up here at HW, but I do recommend men educate themselves about
PC. This book was co-written by Dr Mark Scholz who is one of the leading PC docs in the world, and doctor to many men here at HW, and it was written for men like you because he recognized that favorable-risk cases were underserved.
Here's a passage from the book which relates to what I wrote above:
The psychological impact of a cancer diagnosis is overwhelming, and the emotional appeal of “cutting it out” drives far too many frightened and vulnerable men toward surgery although, in many cases, no immediate treatment is necessary. According to Stamey, prostate cancer is a disease all men get if they live long enough. “Our job now,” he said, “is to stop removing every man’s prostate who has prostate cancer. We originally thought we were doing the right thing, but we are now figuring out how we went wrong. Some men need prostate treatment but certainly not all of them."Post Edited (NKinney) : 11/6/2015 1:02:39 PM (GMT-7)