Intro, and my story.

SKS,
Sounds like your surgery was pretty uneventful....which is the best kind. Hang in there. The continence will come. I was lucky and was fully continent a couple of days after getting the hose out. I still have ED but it's getting better slowly. Use the VED in conjunction with the Cialis.....it seems to help.

My wife and I work out quite a bit as well. We've been doing P90X, X2, X3, T25, Body Beast, etc. I was in great shape right up until my surgery. I push hard and it was really tough after surgery waiting to start working out again. I started about 3-1/2 weeks after surgery. Ever hear of air guitar? I started doing air weights. I used 10 lbs for anything that didn't really involve core muscles. After the first round (about 7 days) I gradually started increasing weight. At 8 weeks after surgery I was back to full weight except for a couple of core involved moves. It took a couple of weeks more before I was doing 100% of the plyo routines or moves that required lots of jumping over the bench etc. By about 3 months after surgery I felt 100% no matter how much lifting I did or how hard I pushed.

18 encounters per month...you rock! In my case Mr. Wiggly no longer throws up the way he used too...now he just dry heaves! He still works but it take a lot more manual stimulation to get solid. Although it's a dry orgasm it still feels just as good as before and seems last longer for some reason.

You're well on your full recovery!

Thought I would give an update.

I decided to travel for work a little, went to a 2 day Team meeting week before last, and last week I was at a new Vendor Partner's office for 3 days of training. It's been a process, and dealing with incontinence certainly has it's challenges.

The Team meeting had a 3.5 hour drive to, and from, that was what really concerned me the most. In my current state though, sitting, and laying down I have pretty good continence. So I didn't make nearly as many stops along the way as I anticipated. Standing and walking isn't good though, if I am sitting I can get up, hold it pretty well until I get to the bathroom, and then let it go. It's odd, pee stream is strong, and bladder empties really fast, seems like I should be standing there longer but I don't need to. I've also learned to pace my fluid intake a bit, I drink a lot of water typically, I've throttled back some as what goes in, must go out. The hardest part was the Team get together after the meetings, lots of standing, and then sitting at dinner pretty much locked in at a large table. Although the Depends briefs have been my choice of protection, changing them is too difficult in these situations so I switched to pads. Had to have 1 in each back pocket, and 1 in each front pocket. Haven't found a good solution for having them around other than a backpack, which looked out of place in the bar and at dinner.

So after navigating the Team meeting I decided to attend a Partner training in San Jose. Now that I've learned to pace my fluid intake, and be very proactive on pad changes I though I had it down. Actually did very well, other than the ultra small airplane bathroom and trying to not pee all over myself in it. Meetings were great, had to step out about once an hour, but managed it very well. The biggest issue was walking to dinner one night, pretty much hit the perfect storm, and ignored some clues I shouldn't have. I should have gone to the bathroom and done a pad change prior to walking but I didn't know we were going to walk a mile to dinner. I shouldn't have downed that bottle of water before the walk either, you can see where this is going. So we are walking and I am leaking like an vintage Harley, I can tell I am, and I am starting to panic. We pass a couple of restaurants and I think I should stop in and do a pad change, but I also think we might be close so I keep going. I can tell the pad is now full, and I am staring to feel wet in my jeans, panic, more panic, and I decide to dive into the next restaurant to address the issue. I'm wet, fortunately I'm in darker jeans and it's on the inside of my leg. Pad change done, try to dry up as much as possible, and finish the walk. Sit at dinner wondering if I smell like pee...

So the take away is to ask more questions about plans, and to be more proactive with pad changes, and going to the bathroom.

As my continence is showing improvement I've held off any frustration, it's just part of the process. Modifying behavior is key, be proactive.

SKS, It sounds like you're figuring it out. Keep at it. One thing I found...and it seems contrary....is that having too little fluid intake is almost as much of a problem as having too much. And, you're discovering something that is, I think a common idea: that the time lag between "soon" and "Right F'ing NOW" is a lot shorter than it used to be.

How's "little SKS" doing?

halbert said...
SKS, It sounds like you're figuring it out. Keep at it. One thing I found...and it seems contrary....is that having too little fluid intake is almost as much of a problem as having too much. And, you're discovering something that is, I think a common idea: that the time lag between "soon" and "Right F'ing NOW" is a lot shorter than it used to be.

How's "little SKS" doing?

Hey Halbert, now let's not be calling him "little" he's a bit sensitive about that you know...

So far I'm pleased that I'm responsive, and can achieve an erection, as I can't really put it to use with the wife due to incontinence I can't say that I can sustain one for now, although it seems like I can. Doc does have me on daily Cialis so I can't say if it's all me, or the drugs for Mr. Happy.

Follow up with Doc went well today, nothing seems out of the ordinary to him, he thinks another month and I should be pad free!!

AND, he cleared me for all activity, so I'm headed to the Gym in the morning for a Leg day, man I have missed leg days! Based on the fact that I haven't done a leg day in over a month, I suspect I will be hobbling this weekend.

Edited to add a couple of things. Looked at my chart online, path report was stage t2c, my initial biopsy diagnosis was t1c.

My PSA result today was .01!!

Post Edited (sks61) : 1/31/2017 5:17:33 PM (GMT-7)