Input on ED treatments

B, some men respond well to viagra, others to cialis or levitra. Since the viagra 'sort of' works, and he has spontaneous erections, those are both very good signs. It wouldn't hurt him to try low dose cialis (2.5 or 5 mg) daily-it has a half-life of around 3 days, so it's cumulative over a few days.

He IS only 8 weeks out, which is at the early end for restoration of function. The good news is this:

a. he has you, who sounds quite willing to help him along
b. he has occasional spontaneous erections (I'm assuming middle of the night stuff?)
c. the viagra does help sporadically

What you can do, as the wife, is to be willing to help things along when they happen. All the things you used to do pre-surgery to get things started for him...they still work. He may even have the pleasant surprise of things being as good, or better than before (and certainly less messy).

BWeaver said...
Halbert-thanks for the reply.
I don't know how to help him get thru the depression & anger he is experiencing. I pray with time he will begin to be hopeful again.

The fact that the equipment works spontaneously is proof that the machinery works. That’s half the battle. I’m six years out from surgery. Took me this long to find a significant other…that is to say…I’ve never known “what I’ve truly got” until now. Sex is not the same now. Before surgery, the machinery worked “on demand.” Each time. Every time. Not the case now. Frustration and low self-worth can set it from time to time. That said…slowly but surely…thing improve…they have been for me anyway. And…one time will be “the greatest!!!” and this can set me up for believing it will continue to be so. Then I can become down when it’s not. What I’m trying to say is…before the surgery it was an extremely reliable car. Now, when I turn the keys…it’s not guaranteed that the car will start. The problem with the car is intermttent. Sometimes it starts. Sometimes it doesn’t. 😊

I cannot take cialis. (Hurts my thighs). So, I take viagra. It’s good for me to take it even when I do not plan on having sex. That serves to keep things somewhat “alive” down there. It keeps the blood flowing.

Once upon a time (pre surgery), I just assumed viagra was an “on demand” drug. But now…im beginning to find for myself that…it can work in the evening (or even the next day) if taken in the morning.

Ans, as you know BW…sex is made up of many, many nuances…sometimes of which…all of the nuanced things must be in line. “The stars must be in alignment”. 😊 If something is “out of whack mentally or emotionally…it’s not going to work for me.

I will tell you what keeps me going more than anything BW. And that is…my significant other has me 100% convinced that even when I cannot perform…when I’m feeling as if I am letting her down…it’s her constant reassurances from her that I’m making her happy even if I feel as if I am not….physically speaking.

One other thing….I’m finding that before surgery…I was in the drivers seat as far as sex goes (equipment always reliable). Now…that has changed to where the machinery is in charge. And when the car does begin to turn over…when it does start…it is imperative that I we drive the car. (Have sex when the machinery is working). I don’t pass up the opportunity when it’s alive and well. (Which also can “spice things up”).

As halbert said…8 weeks is nothing. Give this some time.