fiddlecanoe said...
If primary treatment results in an imperfect outcome -- either recurrence, incontinence, or ED -- it's nearly inevitable that we will wonder what would have happened had we chosen a different treatment or a different doctor. I think that's the source of a lot of regret. I wonder sometimes what would have happened if I'd chosen radiation instead of surgery for my initial. Maybe I would have been cured from the outset and I'd still be a wild stallion in the sack. I'll never know and I can't go back for a re-do, so I don't dwell on it.
I tend to agree fiddle. Kinda hard to regret having everything going smoothly. I can picture scenarios where the
the more investment one makes in researching different treatment paths leading to
even more regret if the path we ultimately chose led to a less than desirable outcome. (I’m speaking from experience).
But, it’s like the ‘ol saying, “Be careful what ya wish for. You might just get it”. How different is regret from that? Other than dealing with the past, rather than the future?
Had I chosen another tx path, who knows where I’d be or what life would be like? Heck, I could’a run over a kid playin’ in the street while driving to the radiation joint. Ripple Effect. Regret is something best left to others. It’s not something to be messed with.
Regret is non-discriminatory. You’re either gonna have it, or they’ll be none of that.