Update from Jeffff

Surgery was 11/5, so I'm in my 4th week post-op. Things are going really well. Almost no incontinence. I wear something at night, just for peace of mind, but it doesn't seem to be necessary. I had been quietly depressed at the prospect of having to regain my continence, but I haven't had many issues at all. I attribute this to the skill of the surgeon (and maybe my overall good health, as well).

I only took one week off from work. However, I work from home and my work is mainly phone, computer and zoom. Nothing strenuous. I'm continuing to be very careful not to life anything heavier than a gallon of milk. Not sure how long I'm supposed to keep that up, but I imagine another few weeks. Everything seems to be healing well.

For what it's worth, Debra convinced me to go on a vegan diet a couple months before the surgery. This change was much easier than I expected, and i feel much healthier as a result.

Thanks to all members of the forum who were so knowledgeable and helpful when I was in the thick of it. You guys are great.

Funny story: as you know Debralyn has become an expert in all things related to prostate cancer and the various treatments. When I went in for my 2-week follow-up with the surgeon. She peppered him with technical questions. I didn't know most of the acronyms she was using, but she had a notebook on her lap with everything written down. After about half a dozen questions, she asked the doctor if she could ask a couple more. "Sure," he said. "You could teach my residents something." Meaning, I wish they asked such sharp, detailed questions.

That's my wife!

Great teamwork, Jeff!

Djin

Hej @Jefff and thanks for the update. I am exactly 3 weeks ahead of you and I found my body told me pretty clearly what was OK and what was not. Also, after 6 weeks it was like a switch threw and body said "back to normal". I need to-and am-mistrust that because "normal" was a 430lb deadlift but I am happily doing normal activities, lifting boxes as we declutter etc. I am still wearing the hernia belt I recommended (oh boy, has it helped) and of course that takes some of the strain off the main incision. Not training yet and planning the return of that.

But, I still get tired and Mr Wood is not the houseguest he used to be but all that will pass. It is major surgery, so we should take it easy to some degree (eg there is a guy on here who was fine lifting boxes but overdid it by lifting TOO MANY). When I get tired the feet go up and whoever needs to take over takes over...

Others: it is not an accident that @jefff and I were immediately continent. Indeed, it should be the expected result from a PROPERLY PREPARED AND ASSESSED candidate for surgery. If in doubt, reach out and @jefff, @debralyn, I or many others on here can help ask the questions. The magic letters? M R I.

Good luck and keep us posted.

SUM