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Posted 6/15/2010 7:14 AM (GMT -5)
Sorry if this question offends you, you need not read on. Otherwise...

I feel a little silly for asking, but are there any precautions I should take/concerns I should have with receiving anal sex and obviously suffering from UC?
Posted 6/15/2010 7:28 AM (GMT -5)
My advice would be to only do it while well. I find that it can actually bring on an outburst of UC. Use a good lube and don't do it too often.
Posted 6/15/2010 9:34 AM (GMT -5)
I'd say the same lol. And be careful (slow). I haven't done it, but that seems like it makes sense. And maybe try to find a lube that won't irritate anything down there.
Posted 6/15/2010 12:54 PM (GMT -5)
I can't see it as a positive thing....but with the decision to continue it, make sure you use a condom at all times, regardles of how well you know your partner.

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Posted 6/15/2010 1:29 PM (GMT -5)
Probably a bad idea, especially if flaring. There is blood down there. Please have your partner wear a condom.
Posted 6/15/2010 5:44 PM (GMT -5)
hey buddy... that's a exit only area. it will cause other diseases that make UC look like Mickey Mouse.
Posted 6/15/2010 6:04 PM (GMT -5)
^Meh.

Moderation in all things. Go slow, use lube, stop if it bothers you or makes things worse.
Posted 6/15/2010 6:18 PM (GMT -5)
I'd pass on the anal sex and go for oral.

I find that when my gf gives me oral sex, or we fornicate... my bowel movements reduce from 18 a day to 16.
Posted 6/15/2010 7:12 PM (GMT -5)
Coping with anal sex and UC depends on several things. First, how low is your inflammation? If you have low sigmoid or even rectal inflammation it is 99% likely to be too painful and even dangerous. Inflammation higher up is likely not to be as big an issue. Second, how likely are you to be able to keep control, if you know what I mean? Make sure you can hold off on the wrong urges - maybe do a test run with a "toy" to see how it works.

Graphic, but i am trying to answer the question frankly.

Posted 6/15/2010 7:24 PM (GMT -5)
Let me put it this way...If you have a toothache would you eat nuts...A word to the wise...
Posted 6/15/2010 8:26 PM (GMT -5)
I am happily married and don't worry about the disease aspect of things for myself, but regardless, I have put that area as off limits now. Again, I know this is graphic and not for the youngsters, but a bit of finger play in the area is one thing, but that is where I draw the line, and that is, of course, only when I am well. Otherwise, I am too fearful to even try it-to me it just isn't worth it, and I feel like there are plenty of things we can do besides that to keep things alive and exciting.

Like I said, I haven't tried it and I don't plan to, so I can't advise with experience, but I would be extremely hesitant to do it.

I think Mitzo offered some very good advice with some good things to think about.
Posted 6/15/2010 8:52 PM (GMT -5)
Try it if you are comfortable. As mentioned above I would be careful and never NEVER do it during a flare up. Make sure you have an understanding partner who will know that if you stay stop, you mean STOP IMMEDIATLY!.

I have done it in the past and experienced no bad side effects but more recently it has caused flare ups and I haven't done it for the past few years.

There was a mix between it being enjoyable and being horrible. Once I found I enjoyed it less often than I didn't I decided to stop. Make your own mind up but make sure you are very well at the time and also have easy access to medicine or a doctors appointment if it does flare up.
Posted 6/15/2010 9:06 PM (GMT -5)
If you have found it pleasurable before, you will again, especially if you are in remission or find that it is not painful or having unwanted effects. Thanks for bringing up the question, it is important to many.
Posted 6/17/2010 1:05 PM (GMT -5)
Please stay away from anal sex if you suffer from UC> wHEN THERE IS A FLARE UP AND POSSIBLE ULCERATION IN THE LOWER COLON, IT ALSO AFFECTS THE RECTUM. YOU MIGHT BE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR INFECTION AND POSSIBLE RUPTURES. Ulcerative Colitis is a serious disease, It affects your immune system..and is known as an autoimmune disease. Leave out the anal sex.
Posted 6/18/2010 8:01 AM (GMT -5)
JC_FERRERO - I have found anal sex to be fine..as long as I am in remission. Otherwise, it doesnt bear thinking about.  Sometimes, I would use a steroid enema afterwards..just in case!

Also, once I thought I was in reasonable health and that i would be fine to have anal sex. But, after the event I discovered that I wasnt.  And to my horror, I got an anal fissure. Cue 6 months of horrendous pain and misery - that was worse than any UC flare.  Anyone who has experienced a fissure will know what I am talking about.  The problem is, if you have any sort of inflammation lower down, regardless of how mild it be, your internal tissue is highly susceptible to tear, resulting in an anal fissure. It happened to me - twice.  Never again.  I refuse to risk that sort of pain again.

SO, as long as you are sure you're not inflamed around your bottom, and you use loads of lube, you should be okay.

PS - I cant wait for Wimbledon! :-)

Take care

 

Posted 6/18/2010 11:23 AM (GMT -5)
I won't want anything near my butt, period! I wouldn't mess around with a hole that's a exit not an entrance!
Posted 6/18/2010 11:25 AM (GMT -5)

therearemiracles said...
I won't want anything near my butt, period! I wouldn't mess around with a hole that's a exit not an entrance!

You're forgetting there are gay people and UC doesnt discriminate. OP you've got enough solid advice in this thread.
Posted 6/19/2010 5:24 PM (GMT -5)
Lots of trolling on this thread. And the "exit only" stuff is really helpful. Not.
Posted 6/19/2010 6:13 PM (GMT -5)
Another thing to add, and it sounds horrible to say it, but the size of your partner will make a difference. This is probably a closer reflection of why it has been less enjoyable more recently. My ex was a lot smaller and I rarely had an issue with him. My lovely partner who I have been with for the past few years is a fair amount larger. I get flare ups most times after trying this with him so we decided to stop.

See guys, its not all about the bigger the better!

I hope this answer hasn't offended anyone, but it is what I have found
Posted 7/4/2014 3:49 PM (GMT -5)
Thank you so much everyone for having the guts (pardon the pun) to post here so honestly. My husband and I used to enjoy anal sex together but since being diagnosed with UC a year ago, I haven't wanted to at all. I'm afraid of losing control as I find it quite difficult to even pass wind without leaking during the day, so the thought of having anal sex terrifies me now. However, he asked me the other day if we would ever do it again, and this is the first time he's even mentioned the prospect since my diagnosis, and I'm in the middle of a flare up. I was very worried, and wanted to find out if anyone had any advice...so happy now that you've all posted!

I think if I were ever to try again, I will definitely wait until I am not flaring, use tonnes of lube and go very slowly. I think it makes a huge difference to be in a committed and loving relationship, as I know my husband will stop immediately if I ask him to. For the moment, we will stick to playing around the area with nothing going in!

Thanks so much people, you are all wonderful x x x
Posted 7/4/2014 7:21 PM (GMT -5)
I have a hard enough time getting a suppository in there, couldn't imagine.
Posted 7/4/2014 7:45 PM (GMT -5)
Jesus
Posted 7/5/2014 2:47 PM (GMT -5)
Lord
(never done it and would never feel like doing it :)
Posted 7/5/2014 3:22 PM (GMT -5)
All Mighty
Posted 7/5/2014 4:08 PM (GMT -5)
Maybe this is sexist and discriminatory or whatever but I can't even imagine a guy who would actually want to have anal sex with someone who has UC. I don't doubt that I'm wrong though.
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