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Posted 7/14/2014 4:38 PM (GMT -5)
We had a telephone chat last week and I booked an appointment with him for this Friday. This will be my first for real session to admit to and speak about my "mother issues."

New ground for me....




M.
Posted 7/14/2014 5:47 PM (GMT -5)
The last two years my anxiety was so bad because of my narcisstic mother that all my therapy was about how to cope with her. The only thing that really helped me is learning about boundaries. When my therapist said I need to make boundaries it was the first time I ever heard that. It was like I didn't know I had the right to make boundaries and to stay away from people (including mom) who cross my boundaries and don't respect my right to peace.
Posted 7/14/2014 6:18 PM (GMT -5)
Hi Merrida,

Congratulations on taking steps to cover new grounds. That is a very big step, you should be so proud of yourself! I'm proud of you because that shows a lot of strength!

I hope you have a successful session.
Posted 7/14/2014 6:49 PM (GMT -5)
A positive step in taking complete control over your life and laying to rest the things that need to be put to rest!

I hope it goes well for you.
Posted 7/14/2014 10:46 PM (GMT -5)
M.,

Thoughts and prayers going out your way for your appointment coming up!

I hope that this is the start of some great healing, self-discovery and personal growth for you.

I hope that you find that you and the new therapist are compatable, and that working through these issues lightens your burden, and brings relief.

We will keep you supported through this!

S.C.
Posted 7/15/2014 10:41 AM (GMT -5)
Hi Merrida,

I am so proud of you for making the appointment and Friday will be here before you know it.

Therapists  can truly help. They provide an objective view of one's past. They can offer valuable suggestions on how to cope with present problems. Their awareness of a whole range of abnormal behavior allows them to help one to adjust to different situations in life.

I  recognize in the words you posted that this is a beacon of hope for you as you want to deal with your "problem's re your Mother".  I know this will be tough but also cleansing as you recognize your feelings are normal but accepting that your Mother was just not equipped to be a good Mother.

A daughter’s need for her mother’s love is primal and a driving force, and that need isn’t diminished by its unavailability.  That need coexists with the terrible and damaging understanding that the one person who is supposed to love you without condition doesn’t.  The struggle to heal and cope is a mighty one.

Consciousness is the first step in an unloved daughter’s healing. I will be praying that your first session gets you on the path to healing.

Love,

Kitt

Posted 7/15/2014 10:52 AM (GMT -5)
Thank you everyone. I'm excited in a way because since acknowledging the breach of boundaries of trust, a weight feels like it's been lifted so that I can move forward.

That in itself is a brand new feeling for me. I can't get over that it's taken me this long. How could I possibly have continued to feel defensive of and protective towards the very person who violated me and my trust (and yes, boundaries big time!)

Only now?

The anxious part is that memories are beginning to flood. I didn't think that happened,....until it happened to me. I've built a wall for 51 years and that's suppressing and holding back an awful lot of stuff.....I guess as the darn gets broken down, it's normal to feel these long since forgotten emotions and experiences.

Getting nervous....









M.
Posted 7/15/2014 12:50 PM (GMT -5)
That's great Merrida. You'll do fine. You're such an intelligent lady. With a little guidance you will be able to release the past and heal from it...and in the end, you will emerge as a stronger person.
Posted 7/16/2014 6:46 AM (GMT -5)
all my best to you Merrida-hoping this therapist will be able to help you move on from these feelings.
As a fellow "pusher downer" and a "there must be something wrong with me if I'm being treated this way"- I often have flooding memories. Actually a lot of times if I pay attention to them it gives me a sense of relief that not only was it completely normal for me to be so anxious while I was going through the mess but that I was amazing to get through it.

Best of luck- let us know how you make out
Posted 7/18/2014 12:35 PM (GMT -5)
Hope the appointment went well!
Posted 7/18/2014 2:00 PM (GMT -5)
I met the new therapist, and it went very well. It was the most thorough intake I've ever had, that's for sure!

So far so good, and I'm seeing him again next week.

Thanks everyone for helping me get to this point!









M.
Posted 7/18/2014 2:16 PM (GMT -5)
Hi Merrida,

I'm glad that your session went well and it was a thorough intake. I know it's a good feeling to meet with a therapist and it goes well. I'm very happy for you.

I hope you have a great weekend.
Posted 7/19/2014 7:42 PM (GMT -5)
Great news!!

I am sure that this is just the start of very good things to come!

Keep up the good work:)

S.C.
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