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Posted 9/12/2015 10:35 AM (GMT -5)
She wasn't my official mother in law yet but she was soon to be. She was such a wonderful person and I was so happy that I would have a such a kind mother in law. She just visited me and my fiancé at our new home a couple weeks ago. I feel so bad for my fiancé he said the other night that he needs me to get better and he can't lose me too. I do want to get better but this is just another blow.
Posted 9/12/2015 10:47 AM (GMT -5)
Lawchick,

I am sorry to hear about your loss. My fiance lost his mother when he was 13 due to a heart problem and diabetes. He reminds me constantly to take care of myself and also worries a lot about loosing me due to similar health problems.

It is a lot of stress when your partner worries about you. Don't let his concern cause you to panic; he is going through a lot right now emotionally and is showing you that he cares about you.

My fiance says things like "I wish I could help you" and "You need to stop letting your anxiety control you." Sometimes I feel like he doesn't understand how difficult it is some days to deal with the symptoms and try to carry on with a normal routine.

One of my favorite works about the struggle of having an invisible or chronic illness is The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino. I found that her explanation of how difficult it can be some days was easy to understand and perhaps could offer your fiance insight to the difficulty you are experiencing. http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

My deepest condolences

WorryWart87
Posted 9/12/2015 11:14 AM (GMT -5)
I am so very sorry. Prayers for all of you.
Posted 9/12/2015 1:19 PM (GMT -5)
L.C.,

I am so sorry to hear this! My condolences to your fiance and you during this time.

Grief and loss are of course triggers! Add to that the support you will be giving to your fiance...and you certainly have a challenging situation presently.

I encourage you to really draw on your coping skills to help keep you centered and as calm as possible now.

We are here to support you, so please post as needed. We will lift you up!

Thoughts and prayers,

S.C.
Posted 9/12/2015 6:42 PM (GMT -5)
Thanks everyone for your replies. My fiancé is up at his dad house right now and I'm all alone at some inn and I'm not feeling good at all. My throat is bothering me so much I fell like I am choking on a seed from my smoothie but I know my throat gets even worse when I'm anxious. My pulse is also kind of high too. I really want to be strong for my fiancé but I don't know how much longer I can go on like this.
Posted 9/12/2015 8:30 PM (GMT -5)
So very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers to you and your family.
Posted 9/12/2015 8:54 PM (GMT -5)
LC,

That must be hard...you are away, in a strange place...all that is making an already stressful situation more uncomfortable. I can imagine that you would be struggling.:(

Use your coping skills! Lie down and do some breathing exercises and progressive muscle relaxation. Watch a meditation video and see if this helps.

If you are still feeling unwell, maybe you need to burn off some nervous energy/adrenaline...and checking to see if there is an exercise room might be a good move...or simply doing some calesthenics in your room could help.

You can get through this. It is a difficult situation and challenge for sure...but you are stronger than you know!

With support,

S.C.
Posted 9/12/2015 9:43 PM (GMT -5)
I'm so sorry for your and his loss,

Use your coping skills the best you can!
Maybe see if there is a pool where you're staying, go for a walk, just around the parking lot.

Keep us updated!
Posted 9/12/2015 11:12 PM (GMT -5)
my deepest of condolences.
Posted 9/12/2015 11:21 PM (GMT -5)
Thanks everyone. The hotel does have pool but it just closed for season here. Luckily my fiance came back not too long ago. I'm just trying to do my best for him.
Posted 9/13/2015 4:44 AM (GMT -5)
Hi LC

So sorry to hear this my deepest condolences to you and your fiancé and his family.

We are here for you.

Hibee
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