MY BOYFRIEND - LOUD MUSIC

My partner plays loud rock/punk music at home ALL day long. We have a tiny flat and the music is driving me MAD. It never stops. I work PT as a teacher and do my prep in the morning. The music is on all the time. I can hardly thin - I have to use headphones. As soon as I get up in the morning it starts. I can't wait to get out of the flat during the day. he work at home as a write but seems to do sweet FA. I think he's trying to drive me nuts. I have asked him to turn it down but he tells me I'm destroying his life.

Hi Zenith and welcome to the A/P!

I am sorry to hear about this issue with your bf. I completely understand, as loud noise can be a trigger for my anxiety as well. (and sometimes migraines)

I am puzzled by his reaction to your request to turn the music down. 'Ruining his life' seems a dramatic response to a simple request. I suspect this might not be the only issue at hand here maybe?

I agree that noise cancelling headphones are a simple solution...*IF* there was comprimise involved. Like, say...if he only played music for part of the day...or if you switched off...him listening on headphones for half the time. However, for you to have to endure loud music/wear headphones all day, everyday...that is not reasonable!

Hopefully you can come to a fair agreement where you can both have what you want, part of the time...

...However, if he's unwilling to comprimise...or there are other issues in your relationship where it's HIS way or nothing, then I would suggest doing some thinking about whether you want to stay in it.

Just my opinion here...it is a personal decision that you will have to come to yourself...and we support you either way.

Keep us updated, so we can keep you in support!

Scaredy Cat